Love is easy to pronounce but many would have a hard time explaining in depth the real meaning of the word. Love encompasses a great deal of feelings, expressions and thoughts while its intangible meaning is unexplainable, uncontrollable as well as unpredictable. It is this overpowering complexion of love that makes it so exciting and, at times, dangerous.

While everyone dreams of a happy and everlasting relationship no one knows for sure whether their relationship will stand the test of time. Love offers no guarantees to whether it is truly in ‘death do us part’. I believe love exists in the hearts of every individual and I see love as something that is positive, a sensation that gives us a wonderful feeling. To me, it is when you only have 20 sen left in your pocket or have to walk under the rain (or both at the same time) but still have a smile on your face. That is how potent the power of love is where every single thing seems perfect to a person who is in love.

Taking It to the Next Level

Love can definitely bring happiness into someone’s life especially if that other person turns out to be compatible. A sound and healthy relationship to me is where each partner supports and respects each other and is there for one another every step of the way. But there comes a point where a couple must think about their future and what both parties genuinely want for their relationship. This would be an essential juncture where a couple decides where their relationship is heading – a make-or-break turning point that would lead to either the strengthening or diminishing of the bond. However, one is advised to be rational in preparing for what’s to come as the relationship advances to the next level because not every single thing that we plan will go smoothly.

To the same extent, love can also bring about pain and suffering as well and we may end up worse than we were before because of it. Whatever it is, no couple is devoid of undesired circumstances. This is the reality of life and love.

Testing Times

More often than not, once a couple is faced with a setback, insecurities would get the best of them. Dark clouds of doubt brought about by demons from past experiences can often jeopardise the life-line of a relationship. A third party coming into the picture is a common reason for a breakup where the issue of trust is of concern. As such, in any situation where a relationship has gone from steady to shady, each party must to try their level best to handle the situation in an honest and sensible manner, as hard as it may seem at that time.
 

Most who had gone through breakups would know that it can affect one’s life negatively. We feel the sense of hopelessness and our spirits drained. We tend to become reluctant to face the daily reality of life and it is not unusual for some to succumb to meltdowns, or worst, self-destructive actions. This is because a person who had ‘lost’ someone or had been betrayed tend to feel like they have nothing else to lose. In actual fact they still have close family and friends and most importantly, a life. The truth is we can’t feel real happiness without having experienced real pain and only from going through sorrow do we truly appreciate joy. This is the world we live in: It’s beautiful, but also ugly at the same time.

Losing someone we love and getting the raw end of a deceitful relationship is not the end of the world as there’s still that light at the end of the tunnel. We still have family and friends who care about us and the future is still out there as far as our career, hobby and next romantic interests are concerned. Above all, just because something good ends doesn't mean something better won't begin.

Rising From the Ashes

The most important thing when dealing with matters of the heart is to be true to one’s inner self. As my newest friend told me recently, “I’d rather be honest about my selfishness than lie about being unselfish.” I truly believe things would be less complicated and confusing if people were to take this approach.
 

I am not a love doctor of sorts but I strongly believe in the fact that everyone falls but it is how we get up on our feet again that matters. Love should help us become a better person and progress in self-development aspects of our lives be it our education, career and even those concerning moral and virtues.

A couple who truly loves each other would always care and support each other morally, physically, mentally and spiritually. However, if that other person impedes you from ‘growing’ or does not respect you the way you deserve to be respected or intentionally hurt you in any way, it is best for you to stay single, at least for now. Although it’s true that we can’t choose who we fall in love with, we can choose to stop loving a person. After all, there is really no point putting ourselves in a miserable situation when we have a choice when it comes to making our own decisions for our future and focus on our goals. Besides, being single is actually quite awesome...